It’s been a year already
| April 20, 2009 | Posted by Angela under Family Stuff |
Today marks our first year wedding anniversary. It’s hard to believe. I guess time flies when you are in love (haha, cheesy but true).
Jason surprised me with tickets to the first Spurs playoff game of 2009…and we lost. The Spurs just couldn’t execute come the second half. We had a blast anyways. It brought back memories of when Jason and I used to have Spurs season tickets for 2005 and 2006. We went to almost every game. We were there when we won the championship against the Detroit Pistons – unbelievable experience.
Jason and I have known each for for 5 years now. Seems so long ago but we are still learning about each other and growing closer everyday. Though we have many memories to reflect on, we have many more to come.
I think we fell in love really quickly meaning our hearts were there but maybe not our heads entirely. It took some time understand the magnitude of marriage- it’s a serious commitment and not to be taken lightly. If there is any advice I can give to women that want to get married, I want to first emphasize the following:
Do what you need to do on your own. Whether you need to finish college, take a trip to a far fetched destination or start your career. Whatever it is, do it. The love of your life will still be there if it is meant to be.
This is so important because you never want to feel like you can’t do something because you are married. That’s not fair to you nor your husband.
Also, when you get married, that doesn’t mean that you stop focusing on your personal growth and setting personal goals. You still need to do things for yourself. The difference? You can’t just think about yourself but you have to consider your husband’s thoughts as well. For example, if I wanted a job in San Francisco, I can’t just pick up and leave. We have to discuss what makes sense for both of us. It’s all about compromise.
The difference between dating and being married:
- If you get an argument, you can’t just pick up and leave. You really have to work things out.
- Finances! Your money is his money and vice versa (even if you have separate checking accounts, doesn’t matter)
- WE – it’s all about the we. You are now sharing your journey through life (it’s not just about you)
We have had a really wonderful first year of being married. We are sharing adventures that I wouldn’t have imagined 6 years ago. Dreams do come true, my friends.
Please know that I am highly aware that marriage is not all sweet and dandy. I know that 20 years from now, I am sure a blog post about our 20 years of marriage will be a bit different than this one.
No matter what, remember why you got married. Mine? I love to see Jason smile.
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Happy Anniversary! May God keep blessing your marriage with lots of love, health and great communication
Thanks for the advice and I bet 20 years from now, the biggest difference of your blog entry is loving him more.